What do you want to fulfill in life? Do you have any personal goals? What are the top four things you'd like to accomplish?
This is a really good question that has had me thinking for a while now. In wrapping the 3 questions into 1; these are my current four personal goals I’d like to accomplish in life.
1. Work hard and with love. My parents are the kinds of people who will work 10-12 hour weekdays and then spend weekends volunteering at homeless shelters. They’re not judgmental, and don’t expect me to do the same, but in admiring how much love and strength they put into life, they inspire me to want to live my life with that much love and strength too.
2. Be open in letting people know what I appreciate about them and being perceptive. There are so many amazing people and things in this world that inspire me. I’d like to be more brave in letting people know what’s so fantastic about them, whether it’s family, friends, or strangers on the street. In short: defy the greater context of The Beatles’ lyric “You’ve got to hide your love away”. I also want to be more perceptive and consistent when it comes to people needing help. Though I was the only one to stop and help a woman who crashed her car into a freezing canal a few years back, I recently failed to call the police when a girl was yelling from being beaten up about 40 feet from my window. It sounded like roller-coaster screams, so I thought it might be the sound of someone getting a drunk piggy-back ride from the party-house next door. (NOTE: Please scream “HELP” if you’re ever in an emergency so as not to leave people guessing). Anyways, I was, and am still, furious with myself for letting that extra time pass until someone else called the police. I don’t care if I’m accused of being nosy in the future, I don’t want to let it happen again.
3. If it happens: First, intentionally and consistently work at being a great husband, and second, intentionally and consistently work at being a great father. I’m up for rolling with whatever life throws at me; single, married, kids, no kids, et cetera, but I do think being a husband and father are roles that are very important. There’s a quote that’s something like, “We spend our entire adult lives trying to recover from our childhoods.” For this reason, I think it’s very important to be the best parent one can be. We only get one childhood. However, kids live with you for about 18 years or so and will likely then have families of their own, so I think being a great companion is even more important. Ideally, one’s spouse is that person one wakes up to each morning and falls asleep with each night; one’s best friend and teammate. If you get that right, you’ve got a truly great thing going.
4. Save enough money for new knees. My knees are currently alright, but I took it hard on them from skateboarding so much in my early teen years. No doubt, 50 years down the road will leave me with creaky legs. Thankfully, there are clinical trials going on where physicians use stem cells to regrow people’s knee caps and surrounding tissues. I want ‘em! I know it’s an odd goal, but I think it will make the difference between me being a 75 year old in pain all the time or a 75 year old who enjoys snorkeling and moon-walking.
hey! could you ever fall in love with a "fan" of yours?
Can’t see any reason why not :) In a sense, it would almost be a necessity for that person to love my music. I don’t think I could fall in love with someone who viewed all the heart, time, and resources I put into my music as a waste.
am apathetic when it comes to people venting about everyday problems.
think too many steps ahead of the current one.
am too guarded at that level of flirting that lets a girl know you want to kiss her.
often forget to introduce friends to other friends at parties/shows.
have akward sleeping patterns. I might sleep from midnight to noon one day and 5 a.m. to 8a.m. the next. I destroyed my sleeping cycle in college after pulling at least one all-nighter each week to finish massive weekly reports. This is definitely what I’m fighting the hardest with right now.
go off on tangents quite often when having discussions.
have dull taste buds, so I don’t appreciate the tastes of foods as much as other folks do.
can’t grow a full beard.
have a nose that runs a lot when it’s cold outside.
am a perfectionist. I don’t expect to get things right the first time, but I do expect to recover from failure as many times as needed to finally accomplish something. (This leads to me spending too much time on simple tasks and not giving up as soon as I should sometimes.)
am an information addict. I’ll spend hours reading Wikipedia articles at random.
If you’re Annie Clark, I would find it very hard to say anything other than yes. If you’re Jareth (aka David Bowie in The Labyrinth) then it’s a no-way, buddy. Based on the infinite possibilities of who this might be, I think it’s safe to say: Maybe?
Thank you to everyone for the feedback on the white shirt post! So the word on the street is: White shirts are classic, look great when fitted and on a fit bod, and the V-neck/no pocket look takes it up a notch. Nice.
Do you have any tattoos?
If so - how many and what of?
If not - would you ever get one?
I don’t have any ink at the moment, just a lot of scars. Although I’ve seen a lot of tattoo work that I love, I’ve never had a strong urge to get any work done on myself. I’m definitely open to the possibility; just can’t say if I’ll ever get the spark though :)
What books do you like to read?
-One of your followers, someone you're following
I’ve been reading a lot of westerns recently. Louis L’Amour for happy endings and Cormac McCarthy for depressing ones. I also like to read biographies about saints. Still quite malleable when it comes to preferences in literature though :)
What has been your favorite place that you have traveled /visited in the United States? Why? Where would you like to go next? Why? [*] :)
Current favorite place to visit in the United States? New York, New York.
(Photo: The Selby - Greenwich Village, NYC)
I know it’s not a very unique answer, but I can’t deny that the place gets better every time I visit. Part of my love stems from friends and family who live there, but I also love how hard working and energized the artists and innovators seem to be. There’s always a new restaurant to check out, some event going on, and the quality of the art, music, even graffiti, is next-level. It’s inspiring!
Place I want to go next? Austin, Texas.
(Pictured: Ol’ friend Trenton who moved to Austin)
My old band opened up for an Austin band called Okkervil River a couple years back, and that’s when I was first convinced by the lead singer that I needed to visit this magical place. I hear the people are really friendly, and the city is a perfect mix of laid back country living and big-city excitement. My good friend Trenton also recently moved out there, and I want to visit him and drink beers and watch Austin City Limits.
I am 25. Even though I still feel really young when thinking about how someone like James Franco is a good 7 years older than me, I’ll also think about how James Dean only made it to 24, and I’m then really thankful to have already made it this far in life.